Guest Post by Phil Kim

‘Honey, not tonight’, this is what I call the epitome of ignorance.

If only all men and women would know the benefits of quality sex to life, then they would do anything and everything to maintain it.  The second part of this statement is as important as the first. After all, many of us who know that they stand to benefit a lot from a quality sex life, still find it very illusive as they are dogged with stressors such as too much of work, traffic, debts, parenting, poor communication in marriage and eventually the last nail on the coffin quality sex is from the age related loss of libido.

Strangely enough, it is those who have been licensed to have sex, I mean the married couples, who have even more difficulty having sex, let alone having quality sex. In fact, studies have shown that more than 90% of married couples do not have sex once a month!  Yet sex is an important ingredient to quality life, both for the spouses and children that we should not neglect. The employer also stands to benefit from a healthy sex life of the employees who are likely to be more productive and it should therefore be their business.

Let us start by discussing how to have quality sex life:

1. Looking good: this affects both men and women. Here I am talking about being psychologically confident that you look good. Given that sex is about showing our nakedness to our sex partner, it is important that we are confident that we are attractive. This takes good grooming and dressing up well according to our own style. When you have had a day feeling confident of your looks, then you are likely to enjoy your sex life.
2. Good diet: you need to have a diet that improves vitality and reduces lethargy. Nutrition experts recommend a diet that is high in fiber and less fat. This improves bowel function and reduces the effects of bad bacteria in the stomach. You would therefore have maximum energy efficiency that is necessary for an active sex life. After all, you need more than 150 calories of energy for an average 30 minute active sex.
3. Herbal formulas: it is true that certain herbal formulas such as gingsen root or damiana or morinda rots have ability to enhance the production of testosterone hormones and oxytocyn. These hormones are necessary to maintain a sex drive and orgasm.
4. Exercises: this is a must for both men and women. One benefit of effective exercises is that it keeps the body trim and therefore enhances a sexy look for both the man and the woman. This is also important because you need the muscles to enjoy a good sex, the man will be able to press on and penetrate with power as the woman’s virginal muscles are able to keep the pressure and hold to achieve a great and satisfying orgasm.
5. Deliberate work-life balance: a good sex life does not just come, it is built. This is especially a challenge for career people who often end up giving their life to their jobs and neglect the sex partner. A warning on this is that it will soon affect your productivity at work. Besides, you will need a quality sex life to work to your old age.

Now that we know how to have quality life, we need to keep the motivation by looking at some of the relationship between quality sex and healthy living

• Longer youthful phase: it is proven that a quality sex life is likely to increase the hormones for growth such as dehydroepiandrogens (DHEA) and endorphins. This increases the ability of the body to repair itself from wear and tear and therefore maintain youthful shape.
• Maintain good shape: the feel good effect that comes with satisfaction from healthy sex improves the skin tone and general look. Besides, the fact hat you loose more than 150 calories fro an average one moment of sex activity also helps your body to loose most of the excess weight and therefore you have a good shape.
• Better sleep: if you have had a high end orgasm, then you know that this will make you sleep well. You will generally be able to relax the muscles and wake up more fresh.
• Stress buster: you should make every effort to have a good quality sex even on the day when you feel most stressed. It is able to reduce the
• Desire for more sex: given the above benefits of good sex, you naturally need to find ways of getting more of it. This is possible by simply getting have more sex. It is like the case of breastfeeding a baby, the more a mother does that, the more the milk is produced by the body.

Conclusion:

Quality sex begets quality life which is a prerequisite for good sex life. In other words, quality sex and quality life are so intertwined to the extent that you cannot have one and not the other. Given that life in itself does not have a rehearsal, why not enjoy it through a nature provided free gift of sex. The beauty of sex is that it is not an exhaustible resource. Besides, this is form of quality sex and life is best experienced in a long-term relationship such as marriage. This means that it comes with a sense of responsibility and the couples are able to enjoy it to old age. It therefore benefits the children as the family remains happy. Make deliberate efforts to enjoy your sex and life today.

About Author: This is a guest post submitted by Phil Kim. You can see more of his writing at his Dahn Yoga blog.